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The Behuman Podcast: Episode 004 – Change Is

20 February 2018

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Change…

Is the process of recognising…

where you are right now and

recognising where you want to be instead.

You see I didn’t always realise this.

There was a time in the past where, I was frustrated.

I just did not know what I needed to do.

My self awareness was at a place where

I couldn’t even see where I was at.

It was frustrating because I couldn’t move forward.

The process I was going through in my life

Was just without direction…

I didn’t know who I,

I didn’t know what I was supposed to do,

I didn’t know what I wanted to be

I just knew that I was working so hard,

and I was working, and working and working

And I had nothing to show for it.

The frustration I felt,

and the disappointment I felt,

and just that feeling of “let down” every time.

“Why is this not working for me?

There has to be a better way”

I could not understand it

I just could not understand what I needed to do

to recognise what I needed to change inside.

And then I had an opportunity

to speak to someone

who I thought was an expert.

And I spoke to that person

And I said “How do I do this?

I’m lost, I don’t have direction

I don’t know how to move forward”

And in the process of talking to this person

I realised…

You need a Plan.

You actually need a plan before you know what you need to do.

because if you don’t have a plan,

you don’t know where you are going

I said “Wow… How could I miss this?”

I mean, I had set goals before,

New Year’s Resolutions,

And I had come to the place where I would set a goal

And four days later, I gave up on it and said

“Well that’s not going to happen, is it?”

And I realised that a Plan is something

That has to be real for me.

It’s something that when I go out to the future

and stand there and see myself having achieved that

it becomes motivating for me.

It’s actually the point where I realised

That I could be whatever I wanted to be

I just need to change some patterns first.

And in that process of recognising that change

I realised that I have the motivation to do anything I wanted to do.

That I could really move and change my life.

By looking at how I could be someone else

How I could do something else

How I could have something else that I wasn’t already having.

And realising that I could do that had me realise

that I could change anything

But I had to start with a Plan.

And then I had to look at what stops me getting there.

What are the obstacles that hold me back?

What’s was the Fear?

What do I need to do to get over that Fear?

How do I actually get rid of that?

What techniques do I actually need to learn about?

How do I actually get rid of all that stuff that stops me?

Being who I want to be

Having what I want to have

And Doing what I want to do and…

.. in that moment, a whole new pathway opened up in front of me.

It was about following steps, just one step at a time.

What do I do first?

What’s the first obstacle?

How do I get over that obstacle?

What’s the next obstacle?

How do I get over that obstacle?

But all the time, all the time,

setting my vision on that goal…

Of being the person that I wanted to be

Out there in the future

And recognising in that position in the future,

Five years from now

Looking back on now

What would I needed to have done

To have made the changes that first day

So that I could move forward.

Knowing that that’s where I wanted to be

To realise my potential

To create my destiny

To do the things I needed to do

To serve other people

And to really help lift them up

So that they could have a better life as well

And could have a better future

And we could make changes to the world

That could really impact people

And make the world a better place.

And that realisation became a cornerstone

Of how I wake up every single morning now

And I say “Wow, It’s another day”,

It’s another opportunity

to raise my standards

It’s another opportunity to become more

of who I want to be

It’s an opportunity to feel good, to feel grateful

To see the opportunity that stands in front of me

Because without that opportunity

I’m back where I used to be.

I don’t want to be back there

That’s not a good place to be

I want to focus on the future

I want to focus on what I need to do

To inspire myself to inspire others

To be a leader

To show people what leadership is really about

So that I can actually use that motivation

To actually make a real difference in people lives

And I started doing this, and I started to recognise this

And at first, I didn’t know what to do,

because no know knew about me

And I would speak to people,

and I would run events

and I would talk to people,

and slowly step by step

I started getting calls.

People would say

“I’ve heard about you.

You’re the guy that does change work”

And so here I am

Today

This is my job now.

It’s all about change

It’s about transforming people

It’s about recognising

That when people see the possibilities that are availble to them

your whole world way opens up

and in that moment, in that moment,

something can change inside

and people say “you know what,

I want to be part of that journey.

I want to be part of that journey

to create a better world”.

By Micheal Colhoun